I was hesitant to admit my mistake. I was reluctant.Why should I? ( Hello, ego! )
It all starts with “I know it all”, “I am the most creative” , “I am the best at this” and transcends to ” He doesn’t even know this, Oh ! She is so slow, I am far better than him.”
Who are we? Work, scores, money , qualifications, skills, looks? Shallow view ,I must say. It must be something beyond roles and possessions? I guess!! Are we not “beings” with unique qualities and are here to experience a beautiful life?(Correct me if I am wrong) but with a crisis of identity, we certainly can’t.
We in our mind create an image with labels (race, religion, role, title, profession,achievements, looks) and get attached to that image. Get steamed up when some one challenges that “image” .That’s how conflict starts. Ego craves control , putting others down, promotes blatant boasting, a need to be proved right every time. Sometimes as a consequence, relationships drift apart. Slowly.
Yes, we can be slightly better than someone at a certain skill,but not in every other quality. Going beyond labels is understating that at a basic level, we are all the same. Superior or inferior just doesn’t come into the picture. Where is ego then? Humility shall emerge when we start respecting the diversity that makes relationships so beautiful and of course, gives life a special meaning.